Wednesday, May 8, 2013

"How do I know If I am with the right person?"


During a seminar, a woman asked " How do I know if I am with the right person?"
The author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chances are good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author.

Here's the answer.

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU.

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage.

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.

The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found.

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it.

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later.

Because (listen carefully to this):

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.

Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up to you to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuse to let GO....!!!  

with my own experience right now, 

when my boy friends found his true one and then  the time being go fast as they met up together and skip the lecture even they know it will affect to their studies. but who cares?

so basically, people who indeed with love sometimes dont relief that they will do something that can make spoilt in the future and no one can help them instead they know it early.

"Better late than never " right?

but, siapa kita untuk menidakkan apa yang telah tertulis di buku hidup kita.
kita cuma mungkin hanya mampu bersuara tetapi,
kita tidak mampu menolak hawa nafsu yang bergelora tatkala zaman remaja dewasa ini.

tetapi, seakan akan terfikir, mengapa dan kenapa ianya berlaku?

untuk yang telah menemui the right person in their life,
semoga jaga hubungan sebaik mungkin.

A man goes to a sheikh and says: 
Oh sheikh, I’ve been married for year and I have kids but in the past few years I’ve noticed I’m not attracted to my wife any longer.

The sheikh starts to ask him why?
Has she gained any weight?

Man: No, she looks the same.

Sheikh: Did she get into an accident, did something deform her image?
Man: No, she looks the same.

So the sheikh asks: Do you have a hard time lowering your gaze when women walk past you? Do you have issues with pornography?

Man: Yeah, how did you know about that?

Sheikh: When you indulge in Haraam, when you fall in love with the Haraam, when you eat, sleep, and breathe in the Haraam, then the Halal becomes disgusting to you.

so, think more, when you fall in love with the Haraam, there's no such a thing what we called long lasting ora long what not.

mungkin sekarang kita tak nampak keburukannya, tetapi, there will be affect to your own family,own sister,own brother or maybe to your own keturunan nanti.

*aku pun bukannya baik sgt utk bercerita kesah ini. mungkin dulu ketika muda remaja aku juga pernah lalai dengan tiada manusia yang xpernah buat silap dlm hidupnya. dan mungkin apa yang berlaku dlm hidupku selama ini dpt menjadi pengajaran utkku utk jadi lebih baik dimasa hadapan:) 

sometimes we never expect something happens untill we learnt something from the accident:)

*mungkin yang sedang baca belog saya ini akan annoyed kan? maklumlah saya ni mcm angkat bakul sendiri je sedngkan dulu pun perangai nakal nakal. haha. well, meh sini nak jawab pertanyaan awak walaupun saya tahu sape yang sdg baca blog saya ni.
*kan ada traffic feed,boleh trace sape yang baca.hahha

jawapan: at least ,dulu kita ni sedar kita pernah silap kan?so, Allah s.w.t tu maha mengampun.maka bertaubatlah kita sebelum terlambat. 

jawapan: kadang kadang kisah lama jangan dipanjangkan. so, lepas apa yang berlaku , saya akan senang lupakan orang yang buat hidup saya ni tak tenteram or mcm serabutkan hidup saya. so, mungkin Allah s.w.t tahu apa yang aku tak tahu. *jangan risau, saya tak ingt awak semua yang pernah saya kenal dulu. kawan boleh dicari kalau org xsudi berkawan dgn kita. kan?

rasanya tu je jawapan saya. 
yang penting saya mampu berdoa agar yang membaca post kali ini, sedar akan apa maknanya hidup.

bukan kita mencari yang terbaik tetapi kita berusaha mencari yang terbaik didalam dirinya. -syaza(May2013)